My name is Nelma Jones and I created this blog to inspire you to have more health, self-esteem, quality of life and any challenges. You are not alone on this weight loss journey. Count on me and welcome!

I’m glad you got this far and that you’re willing to change your life. I would like you to know a little bit of my story to understand how it is possible to change your life when you allow yourself to transform your interior. Soon, you will be able to know my story in detail, in a work that I am creating especially for those who want not only to lose weight, but to transform their reality. Here I leave a small summary and several tips in my posts here on the blog.

The body is a temple that must be cared for with affection. It’s what connects you to the world. However, for many people it is also a focus of concern and big name customers. There has always been an aesthetic demand from society so that we are within an aesthetic standard that in most cases is impossible to follow and that goes against our nature.

We learn that there is only one standard of beauty and that thinness is a prerequisite for being beautiful. And as a child I learned that I was not up to these standards. And if you’re not up to standard, you should feel less than like other people. For a long time, I felt that, as much as I was a good person and tried to adapt to aesthetic standards, I would never succeed.

My childhood

My fight with the scale started early. Since I was a child I have been bullied for being overweight, for not being like the girls who appeared in television commercials and magazines. In contrast, in my childhood, my family’s financial situation was not easy. I grew up in a humble family, with few resources, where being overweight wasn’t even the main problem.

Adolescence

In my adolescence, a difficult time for most young people, this whole feeling of inadequacy intensified. It was a time when my self-esteem was very low and the way people treated me did nothing to make me feel better.

On the contrary, there was more bullying, prejudice and words so offensive that it is even difficult to define. In addition, there was a situation that, if you had an overweight adolescence, you might identify: as friendships for convenience – when your “friends” like to be close to you on purpose to look prettier and thinner, but in other situations, his presence wasn’t needed that much. Have you identified yourself? Anyway, the life of an obese teenager is lonely anyway.

Adulthood

It is very difficult to get out of a cycle of low self-esteem, overweight and prejudice, lack of support and resources. You start to have readings of hopes of being accepted and you also start to believe that this is what life is all about: you will always be less than other people just because you are overweight, and you will not be able to do anything. Come to believe that you deserve less in life and that verbal aggressions should be sublimated.

In adult life, being overweight continued to be an obstacle, whether in the search for a good professional position, or in the relationship I had with people and, mainly, with me. During my first marriage, I lived in the United States and had a daughter. Even happy, there were all the limitations that obesity brought me.

Accident

Years later, together with my husband, I suffered a serious accident, which caused me for weeks in the ICU. My husband did not survive. Only when I recovered from the coma did I know he was gone. This event was a watershed in my life. I went through several surgeries and a year in a wheelchair due to the consequences of this accident. Being in this overweight situation made things even worse and without expectations. But I needed to change, as I had a 3-year-old girl to raise, who depended on me.

This was my first personal transformation: walking again and abandoning my wheelchair, whatever the cost. It was a great achievement! And if I managed to walk again and resume my life, I believe there is nothing to prevent me from doing other things. And if I did it, no matter what your life is like now, so can you.

I did it because I embraced it as a goal, as something necessary. And for that, it is also necessary to lose weight. The accident looked at my body, with all its weaknesses and potential.

my personal transformation

After that, the relationship with my weight continued between ups and downs. I kept getting fat, getting thin and getting fat again. I understood that it was possible to change, but I didn’t always have the right vision of how to do it and I went back to repeating old habits.

Over time, I found a person who really accepted me for who I was (and who I am now), without judgment. I remarried and raised a new family. Today I live in Switzerland. I also started to pay more attention to my body and the feelings I had about it. I understood that change comes from the inside out, that it doesn’t start with the body, but with the mind and your inner values.

Just as I overcame the accident and its sequels, the transformation of willpower, of the evolution that any transformation was possible. If I went back to walking after a year in a wheelchair, I could certainly lose weight correctly and permanently. It was enough to want and take the first step.

My tips and my secret

Being aware of the current situation is one of the steps to change. I was obese and this brought me many physical restrictions – because it put my health at risk – and psychological – because I was not fully happy. The first tip I give to all clients and students who come to me is that you can change your life, no matter how or how you are now.

The second tip is to be present, be aware, lovingly understand your body and how your emotions. Accepting yourself is a condition for transforming yourself. You can be wonderful within your biotype, and not following the media criteria and standards of beauty that seem more like torture. You need to accept yourself as you are and with all the love you can feel to change for and for yourself – and not seek acceptance from other people.

The third tip is to take the first step – there is nothing good in the comfort zone. You will never be able to build anything in this comfortable place you are. You need to build a new reality, a new space for yourself. No excuses and no victimhood.

How I lost weight and regained self-esteem

Almost 10 years ago, I decided to do something for myself and joined a gym. I was very overweight. Very much. I had never been to a gym before and I didn’t even know how to do the exercises. The first contact was a great frustration: educators uninterested in guiding an obese person, as if I were a goner.

However, from there I was the one who most needed to lose weight and regain health. It’s contradictory, since I was there precisely to lose weight, but I didn’t have much support from the professionals. Have you been through this?

I wasn’t discouraged by the lack of attention from whoever was there to guide me. I didn’t know how to perform the exercises and everything seemed out of this world. But in the first month, I managed to lose 15 pounds. Of course I had help from some people, either directly or indirectly. But it was 15 kilos at once and this is my credit! I get emotional just remembering. For me, it was proof that determination and determination change reality. This only happened because I had a great insight, which I will reveal later on – follow here on the blog and wait for news.

But make no mistake: it wasn’t easy. After the first 15 kilos, I gradually lost more weight and regained my self-esteem. Another big change was my diet: I started to eat smaller portions, with the right foods, without going hungry at all.

You will hardly lose weight without changing your diet and starting to make more relevant choices. Gym and proper nutrition is the right path to weight loss. But that’s not all – there are many other secrets you need to know. I made it a way of life and everything became easier and more fun. I never went back to the weight I was before.

This blog was the way I created to share with you everything I learned years of weight loss and personal transformation. I’m creating content on social media, developing a book and even offering a mentoring program to make your story even more rewarding.

I always recommend the support of doctors, physical educators and nutritionists on this journey. But the exchange of experience between those who have already been in your place and surpassed themselves is an invaluable resource. It is my legacy to all people who want to lose weight and build a new reality. Wanting is power! Anything is possible and you are not alone!